Breast Pumping Etiquette

Let us first say—we know this might be a touchy subject; but it’s also one that moms want to discuss. Because breast pumping can be difficult—physically, emotionally, and mentally—and it’s a challenge further compounded by time restrictions due to busy family schedules, work commitments, and the normal desire for us moms to get out of the house and return to social and community life. So even though most of us moms would prefer to pump in the quiet sanctity of our homes—at times we simply need to breast pump in public.

So what etiquette should be considered?

Etiquette is the set of commonly accepted rules of conduct for a specific community.  It’s the balance between attending to your needs while acting with consideration for the needs of those around you.

Let’s consider a few specific examples.

What if your boss or colleague requests a meeting during your pumping time? How should you react, according to etiquette? First, it’s important that you know your rights so you can advocate for yourself and your needs. You can access a full rundown of the laws about breastfeeding and pumping by state here. It’s reasonable (and legally required) for your boss or colleagues to respect your breast pumping time. Either confront the time conflict directly or simply reply that you’re already busy during that time. To avoid this situation completely set up a recurring “meeting” time in the shared calendar your work community uses.

What if you’re traveling, need to pump, and no private breast pumping room exists in the area? What’s appropriate, according to etiquette? Find a place that is as private and comfortable as you require, cover yourself appropriately and pump away. In this case a nursing cover might come in very handy. We especially love the Freemie Hands Free pump in these types of situations. Using the concealable cups, you can truly pump anywhere.

If you’re out at a party and you need to pump, what’s okay, according to etiquette? There is no objective answer here. Frankly, it depends on your relationship to the hosts and guests at the party. It’s reasonable to expect a host to offer you a private space at the home or venue. However, you would be best to discover this information before you attend the event.

Generally speaking, any question of etiquette can be answered using common sense. And remember that your attitude towards your breast pumping needs will likely affect the response of those around you. If you regard your needs as important but act with respect towards others, you will most often find the space and respect that you need from your colleagues, friends, and even strangers.

*Note: These suggestions are compiled by our resident Moms in the Know and are merely suggestions, not informed by medical or legal experts.

*This blog is informed by our resident moms-in-the-know and not by medical professionals. This blog is intended to share the wisdom of experienced moms but never to replace the advice and insight of your doctors. Always consult proper and licensed medical professionals when making any decisions about your health and the health of your children.